In the lines below while I am writing some
amazing facts I witness in my town of Dehradun which is growing
graver with each passing day, the situation is quite similar in most parts of
our country.
Schooling, education and its perspectives in
various contexts are often discussed in Doon simply because this place has
record number of educational institutes, a rare phenomenon. With the increasing
number of educational institutes and some education imparting factories, our
youngsters are at a cross roads on whether they should listen to the advice of teachers,
focus on studies, self analyze the growing competition and choose a path of
their interest to excel, or handle their distressed parents many of whom are a
confused lot trying to draw a line between their days and way of studying with
the present one and eventually lands themselves and the children in a big
muddle and frustration leading to an overall decline in the child’s progress. These
parents little realize every child has God gifted talents and needs
encouragement in the field in which he or she may actually have interest in.
What I am trying to co-relate here is the
simple fact that more than anything, the pressure the children face at the
hands of the parents in the context of studies is reckless. A large majority of
the children of today are an oppressed lot at the hands of their depressed and distressed
parents each of whom want their pony’s leading the race in the field of
education, surprisingly at any cost!
The aggressive behavior of parents towards
their children to excel in anything and everything related to studies is a
quite but impactful damage they cause not understanding the consequences of
this in the overall character and behavior of a child. Parents often complain
their children being rowdy, with swings in behavior, eating habits, often taken
ill and sometimes even disrespectful and disobedient towards them and the
society. Well, these in most of the cases is a result of the enormous silent
pressures the child has to bear at the hands of the parents and even at schools
without appeal, who all spur them up for their satisfaction and motives or in
the name of better school results shielding themselves on the pretext of
education. A school is “shikshalaya” that strives to bring out the full
potential of a child, but is this happening is a big question.
The schools and parents may succeed in their
mission but miserably fail in child grooming process.
There are some much known schools of the town
whose credibility is to produce parrots like students who mug up any thing and
everything. There are children who may understand what they are mugging up but
most of them don’t. For these lots, their parents want them as mugging machines
to reproduce in examinations word by word what the text books say. Happy are
these school to project exceptional educational results at the end of the term
with equally happy parents of children who study in such schools and atmosphere.
What are you up to and happy for parents? Don’t let your children end their
childhood pleasures and their dreams at the altar of your personal aspirations.
Countless cases we read and see where such efforts and aspirations collapse which
land children as utter failure in life.
What we learn with pleasure we never forget,
mugging up things never benefit. Such education is like a paper flower, however
beautiful but without any fragrance. The parents of today fail to realize that
their children have their genes, so you now need to understand whose going
wrong!
On my morning walk everyday which starts
between 5.30 and 6.30 am, I notice a very strange sight, some parents leading
their children in school uniform. Of these some children are as small as that
of kinder garden school and even the bigger ones. Being inquisitive to know
which schools start that early in the morning, I interrupted some parents to
know the fact. I came to know they were leading their children to early morning
tuition classes. On my asking if this early morning studies were due to the
approaching examinations to my utter surprise, I learnt from them that
examination or otherwise this is always on. Hearing this, I thanked my parents
a thousand times for not flogging us this way when we were children. Nor, now
as parents ourselves we press our children this hard. My children also study
early mornings or sometimes throughout the day, but these are occasions when
the need is their and not on a daily routine. We are respectably placed in life
and our children also doing well even after not having undergone this kind of
pressure.
I realize and do not deny that times have
changed over the years but not to the present day affairs, this is ridiculous!
Today even many tiny-toddlers are wearing thick
glass specks, coping with heavy school bags and even lining up for early
morning and after school tuition classes. I am sure a large majority of
parents, if not all, are capable to explaining lessons to their small children
at home. But the greed for making the child out-beat others, they try to inject
over dose of extra coaching and tuitions whether or not the child needs it.
This phenomenon has not only stressed the children, it has made many teachers
not teach well in schools for the sake of roping children of literate
illiterate parents to coaching and tuition classes. This has also disturbed the
education system, which I will not deal here being a totally different and
another mind-boggling issue.
This situation gets graver and more complex
with every increasing class a child climbs.
Recently visiting a close friend of mine, a
senior educationist in a leading public school here over dinner, I noticed him coming
to and forth to the dining room. On my enquiry, he said he was teaching some
students. You are well off, I said, why are you stretching yourself? Is approaching
examinations the reason for your harvesting that long at night I asked
jokingly. To my joke he lamented, some influential parents who have
recommendations from the school management where he is serving or who are
otherwise highly placed in the government whom none may like to displease for
obvious reasons; are making their children take tuition with him, much against
his wishes. These tuitions go as late at 10.30 pm at night he said. Eager to
see such species of parents and children I tried to peep into the study room to
find some children in school uniform at 10 pm at night. Perplexed, I asked my
friend again the reason for this and he told me these children have extra after
school classes with different teachers and have not been able to even go home
for even changing the dress. Mothers of few of them were already waiting in
cars outside his house. Hearing my friend’s plight and that of children there,
I wanted to know the names of those parents to expose them, but he promised me
not to do so. Here again, I feel such parents are mentally sick who in the
course of time will make their children also go crazy or make them indifferent
to life.
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